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New relationships are fresh and exciting, and while many people experience an urge to drop everything and spend all of their free time with when things start heating up, it's never a good idea to forsake old friendships for a flame. Unfortunately, that's exactly what one maid of honor did just four days before her best friend's nuptials. A devastated bride shared her story on Reddit, explaining how her pal of over a decade chose to skip her wedding and vacation with a man she had just met instead.
On Reddit's r/weddingdrama forum, a woman posted her story under a thread titled "My BFF Backs Out 4 Days Before My Wedding for Maldives." The post, which went up yesterday, December 22, was shared the day before the woman's nuptials, and she notes that she was looking for any advice because "everything already went south." According the original poster, the friend, who was also slated to be maid of honor in the wedding, called the bride and said that she could not longer attend the wedding. "At first I was confused, I was like did I say something wrong? Did I do anything to upset her? She said no and said the reason why was because her dad was sick," she explains. "So naturally, I got scared because I considered her dad as my 2nd dad. She wouldn't give me any details other than it was a mild stroke and I respected it because it's most likely a family matter and told myself she'd tell me once she's ready. At first, I wholeheartedly agreed that it's okay for her to not come because it was obviously an emergency."
The bride-to-be didn't give it another thought at that point; of course, she was disappointed that her friend couldn't be there, but she understood that the pal needed to be with her family. Everything changed a few hours later, though. "Her dad called and told me how excited he was for my wedding and that he would see me there soon. I was like, huh? But I just told him, 'Can't wait to see you! I hope you're feeling better. Please don't force yourself to get on a plane if you need to rest okay?' That's when everything started going down," the OP explains. "Her dad was confused and asked what I was talking about. I told him that my bff said he had a stroke. Apparently I was on loud speaker because my bff's mom suddenly jumped on the call too and said that they were both fine."
The bride's calls and messages to her friend went unanswered, and when she tried to message her on social media, she found that her pal had blocked her. What's more, the friend also blocked the bride's fiancé, her family, and her friends. "Apparently, this ex-bff of mine forgot to block my fiancé's best friend's dump account and he could see everything," the bride explains. That's when she found out what really happened. "She was on a flight on the way to Maldives the day she told me her dad was sick. That's when I realized why the background of our previous call was so noisy. She wasn't in a hospital. She was at the airport. And I recognized who the guy was with her and it was the same guy she met on tinder 2 weeks before my wedding."
She was finally able to get her friend on the phone, and the would-be maid of honor had nothing to say for herself. "'Listen, you always get everything you want. It's time for me to do the same,'" the friend told her. "I was full on crying now and I asked what about the dress, the shoes, the hotel, the flight, the food, and the glam team I paid for so she had nothing to worry about. All she said was, 'I don't see that as a problem. You're rich, right? Pay for it.'"
Reddit users chimed in with what anyone would be thinking at this point: "This person isn't your friend and I'm sure if you reflect on the last 10 years you will start to see that she actually never was your friend," one poster wrote. "HOWEVER, do not let her ruin your wedding day. Pretend she never existed and go on to have the best day of your life. Thinking about her one second more means she wins, and she can't win."